Harold R. Flecker (“Butch”)

March 22, 1956 - September 5, 2021
Massapequa Funeral Home, South Chapel
4980 Merrick Road
Massapequa Park, NY 11762
516-882-8200 | Map
Wednesday 9/8, 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Massapequa Funeral Home, South Chapel
4980 Merrick Road
Massapequa Park, NY 11762
516-882-8200 | Map
Thursday 9/9, 2:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Massapequa Funeral Home, South Chapel
4980 Merrick Road
Massapequa Park, NY 11762
516-882-8200 | Map
Thursday 9/9, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Pinelawn Memorial Park
Friday 9/10
St. Rose of Lima R.C. Church
2 Bayview Ave.
Massapequa, New York 11758
516-798-4992 | Map
Friday 9/10, 1:45 pm
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Liz & Ted Demos left a message on September 9, 2021:
We were so saddened to learn of Harry’s passing. Our hearts and prayers go out to you all and hope that the many happy memories of him comfort you in the days ahead. I remember when we first met you both before kids…. Game night at the Edgars…. We had so much fun and knew that you were a great couple. Harry was always so happy and upbeat about life. As evidenced by the crowd gathered to pay their respects tonight…He touched many lives and will be missed dearly.
Karen and Bert Silvestri left a message on September 9, 2021:
We are so sorry to hear of Harry's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Bianca and Evan have often told us what a great uncle he was to them. We will remember him through them. Take care and God Bless.
The Windhorst Family left a message on September 9, 2021:
For over thirty years Harold was the financial advisor for two generations of our family. He became “the guy” for all of our investing questions. More than that, he was like an extended member of our family. Thank you, Harold, for the phone calls, the Christmas cards, and for being a truly caring person. You will be missed.
James Van Wixkler left a message on September 8, 2021:
Where do I start? Presentation of the BVM, Hilltop, Edison (now Joe Austin) Park, in my wedding party, my stock broker, Godfather to my second daughter (Cheryl), Sunday touch football across from Chaminade during winter well into our 40s/50s, confidant, great friend and a better person. A shock and a great loss to all that knew him. Rest in peace my friend, I already miss you.
The Rodriguez Family left a message on September 8, 2021:
Harry warmly welcomed our family to the neighborhood! Always one to help, from yard work, friendly advice about our house to helping my daughters with their jump shot. A selfless man that will be missed. Our deepest condolences to Jeanne, Melissa, Kevin & Brian. May God comfort you in your time of sorrow!
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george mangione left a message on September 8, 2021:
I remember Harold being such a soft spoken and humble gentleman. God rest his soul and may God give strength to the Flecker family.
Gary & Elizabeth Estler left a message on September 8, 2021:
So sorry to hear the sad news; our thoughts and prayers go out to Jeannie, Melissa, Kevin, and Brian. We knew Harold professionally and always appreciated and respected his advice and counsel. You will be missed, Harold.
Bill Flecker left a message on September 8, 2021:
Oh brother, my brother, (Brudda as we affectionately called each other). From my earliest recollections in my life, you were always there, my big brother, my protector, my mentor, my very first and lifelong "Best friend". While growing up, you always included me in your group of friends, you welcomed me on all your sports teams and was my biggest fan & supporter. As I write this with tears in my eyes and a broken heart, you know how much I loved you, respected and look up to you. You lived an exceptional, extraordinary life ... one I aspire to emulate. You married a wonderful girl (Jeanne), raised a beautiful loving family (Melissa, Kevin, Brian). Adored by many nieces & nephews, & 3 Great- nephew & nieces Max, Dylan & Cameron. Well done Brudda, may you RIP Love you !!!
margaret Campion left a message on September 8, 2021:
What a tremendous loss for your family, friends and the entire community. We were lucky enough to play sports with Coach Harry for many years and it was truly a wonderful experience. He gave so much to the kids, I know mine will never forget him. Harry certainly did light up this world. We send our deepest condolences to all and we will always remember what a gift he was to so many.
Todd Fabricant left a message on September 8, 2021:
A wonderful kid back in the day, defended me at the Hilltop as Brendan Green picked on me A class act his entire life. RIP. Ole friend
Maria Cooney left a message on September 8, 2021:
We are so sorry to hear of the passing of such a wonderful man. Harry was truly one of a kind. Always quick to say hello and always with a smile that could light up a room. He was the best coach for little league baseball and we were fortunate to be part of one of his teams as it was a family event. He was always so great with the kids and really knew how to connect with them. Our thoughts and prayers are with Jeanne, Melissa, Kevin and Brian. Simply the best!
Kate Rochford left a message on September 8, 2021:
Sending our condolences to Jeanne and all the Fleckers. Remembering Baker Camp is not complete without remembering hanging out with the other kids (Butchie, Billy, Dee, and the others) while our parents were having their Cocktail Parities on the porch. Able to work with Butchie thru the years and loved our chats catching up on the Baker Camp folks. Love to all.
chris theoharides left a message on September 8, 2021:
Our deepest condolences to Jeannie, Melissa, Kevin and Brian on the passing of our dear old friend Harry ("Butch"). He was a wonderful man with a very loving and caring heart. We all enjoyed getting to know Harry through the years. I personally really enjoyed playing ball for so many years with Harry. May he rest in peace. Chris
Chris Bohan left a message on September 7, 2021:
From me and the Bohan Clam our deepest condolences to your family. Taken away too soon. You’re a good friend and a great teammate. Now you’ll be up in heaven doing the HONKEY connection with John. Rest in peace my friend, I’ll see you on the other side.
Kevin bainton left a message on September 7, 2021:
Butch.. hard to believe Seems not too long ago we were roughing it up planning basketball at Edison or were catching footballs in the park or playing softball with the raiders Our time playing together was very brief but I remember it like yesterday To the family.. I’m so sorry you lost him I remember the first time I saw him He was about 10.. I was about 15 and I was watching him play basketball for the school team... the final score was about 40 to 20 and he must have scored 35 of the points I knew that he was destined to be quite the athlete as he got older.. We all know that now I would have welcomed being a bigger part of it Rest in peace my brother Kevin Bainton
Bill Camacho left a message on September 7, 2021:
My deepest condolences to Butch's family. Butch was a great softball player and teammate of mine for 21 years with OTHG. Butch personified great sportsmanship and a genuine caring for others. He will be greatly missed! I have no doubt he will be an "all star" playing ball in heaven!
Bob Watt left a message on September 7, 2021:
Mr. Harry as I called him was the first person to welcome my family to Rumson Road in the Fall of 1993. Since that day he was one of the most helpful and out going persons I've ever met. Always willing to lend a hand when needed. In all those years I never heard anything but a kind word from him. If you were having a bad day, he always knew how to put his own take on it and put it in a positive light. Harry was a proud father and you would see the smile on his face when he would speak of all the accomplishments that Melissa, Kevin and Brian have made from childhood into their adult lives. As I'm composing this message about Harry, I think to myself how greatly he will be missed by friends, neighbor's and especially his wife Jeanne and children Melissa, Kevin and Brian. Harry will always be guiding your lives in the values he instilled in each of you. Sincerely Your Friend and Neighbor, Bob
Joseph E. Manfre left a message on September 7, 2021:
Dear Flecker Family - It is with a heavy heart that I pay my condolences to you at the passing of your dear Butch. We grew up together in Jamaica Queens, a melting pot of hard working middle class families. We attended Presentation BVM grade school and played along side each other, you at shortstop, me at third base, and even were in the starting rotation of the pitching staff. When I first arrived in Queens in January 1966 from Brooklyn, and entered 5th grade, you were one of the first and few who greeted me and welcomed me to Presentation. We were even altar boys, you a choir boy as well with your voice. You were kind, smart, hard working and as far as looks went, well, all the girls clearly appeared to be at your beckon call. I personally looked up to you and will always remember our friendship. You were truly a first class individual, a man for all to admire and to strive to achieve what you were. You'll be missed my friend. When we last spoke after the passing of your dear dad and my dear brother Sal, we spoke on many topics, but what came out clearly was your passion for family , your kindness, and what a good person you were. May God bless you as you enter the pearly gates of heaven. Sincerely, Joe Manfre'
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